Sometimes living together is difficult. The longer you live with someone, whether that be your children or spouse, it is easy to single out all of the things the negative qualities.
It’s easy for me to get really annoyed when my kids scream or fight with each other.
I’m sure..I know I can get on my wife’s nerves because my organizational skills are on par with a caged monkey. And there are things my wife does that annoy me.
Finding faults in each other is easy. It is also the easiest way to ruin relationships.
The problem with continually finding faults in each other is once you find one, then you will find more. It’s similar to the law of attraction or like attracts like. Eventually, all you will notice are the things that drive you nuts about your spouse or children.
Instead of finding faults in each other, find things you are grateful for about each other. Does your spouse make something easier in your life? Does he/she “snuggle” with you at night? Do your kids make you laugh because they say the craziest things?
At dinner, our family always shares the things we are grateful for that day. Now we are also going to start sharing one thing we like about one member of the family. This is just a way remember the things we like about each other.
If you are looking to improve your relationship with your spouse, children, or pretty much anyone; then start thinking about the things you love about them. Write them down for a week. I bet at the end of that week, the family dynamics will improve tremendously and you will be happier.