Once we have children are we still allowed to dream about what we want to do with our life? Or do we always have to make the safe choice?
Wow…what a great question. Unfortunately I am not qualified to handle such a topic, but I’m going to anyways!
Most of us stop dreaming somewhere between high school graduation and having our first child. I think we get so caught up in trying to walk this proverbial straight line society created that we stop doing things that drive us…that motivate us…that we dream about. We become complacent and make safe decisions.
I think we make those safe decisions (even if they don’t make us happy) because we are either scared to fail or we are scared of what people will think. Jim Carrey addressed this issue in a recent commencement speech and said, “I learned many, many lessons from my father, but not least of which is that you can fail at something you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance doing what you love.”
I understand we have responsibilities and those are important. We have mouths to feed, mortgages to pay, health care to worry about, and the list goes on and on. I’m not saying you should quit your job tomorrow and sail around the world because you have a hunch you’ll enjoy it.
I’m saying stick to your day job and work on your dreams on the side. Allow your day job to fund your dreams.
Your dreams don’t have to be to run a Fortune 500 company or write a NY Times Best seller. Maybe you want to run a marathon, start a foundation, pay off your mortgage in the next five years, start your own business, create a blog, sail around the world, or spend an entire summer on the beach with your family.
I don’t know what your dreams are, I just know, as parents, sometimes we forget to go after what we want. We sit back and let life pass us by and I realized after my son passed away I wanted to start working on my dreams.
I am going to leave you with a this great commercial that was never aired from Apple. The quote at the end is one of my favorites, “The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones that do.”